Thursday, January 31, 2013

Plan of Action

So I think I've collected myself. I have always thought that when things aren't fair, you DO something about it (did I mention I'm very blue?). But the problem is, what do you do when it's no longer your fight and you're still receiving some of the pain from it? That's really hard for a recovering rescuer. So I spent yesterday in thought and meditation and research (the doing side of thinking), and I think I've come up with my plan of action. It's not an easy one, but I think it's right.

STEP 1: Wait. This is no longer my fight. I'm the reserve unit, not the main army. I'm here to keep things under control on the home-front. This is my kid's fight. If she really hates public school so badly, she will step up to fight if I don't. She'll get the courage to stand up to her biological and say that this is not okay. And it doesn't matter if she wins or loses the battle. It's not a death match. And she'll likely lose. But if she loses, she'll see that "Mom fought for what I wanted, he fought for what he wanted." She'll see best intentions. But only if I let her see. It also means I don't have to be the messenger. The messenger gets shot. It'll get rid of the pitting parents against each other before it's really had a chance to take off. She'll lose that ace before she knows she ever had it. Also, right after I lost the home school battle the first time, I got a blessing that said this wasn't my agency in play any more. I had already proven that I was willing to fight for my promptings. This was other people's agency being tested. And at the time, I thought it was all the judge's and the ex's. But now... Now I see that it meant her all along. This is her agency. And just as I was let off the {very bad disgusting} hook because someone else's agency was in play with my divorce, I am given a chance to be off the hook here, too. If she doesn't fight for home school and thereby has to stay in public school, I don't have to home school (yes, it's a get to... but it's also a have to. I get out of some responsibility... which is bittersweet for me... but we're thinking positive here, so bittersweet is still sweet). If she does fight for her rights, she will know how strong she is. She will have the courage to stand up. And that's huge. And how dare I deny her the chance to see her strength.

STEP 2: Strengthen the reserve unit. The judge said if I could prove that she had special needs that couldn't be met in a public setting and that if I could prove I had the expertise to teach, she would re-consider her case. And I'm pretty sure that's just an excuse, and she'd come up with some other story next time, but I might as well take the chance. I can prove the first part. Since my main reason to home school was to avoid standardized testing for my anti-test child and there's no way to avoid standardized testing in a public setting, that one's easy. But the second part... I have  done my homework. I know what I am expected to know, I've read and researched and studied. I know what to expect from a second grader. I know all of the most common homeschooling methods. I know how to get social activities, where to go for help, the legal ins and outs, and am pretty confident in my abilities. But I can't show that. I don't think a list of all my research books and websites will help. So I've decided. I'm going to study for the praxis exam. And I'm going to find a way to take it, just not "officially." And then I'm going to mail the judge a copy of my results. I know her point was to make me go and get a teaching degree for my kid, thereby taking 2-4 years and it'd be too late to home school after that. But that doesn't work for me. I'm smarter than to fall for that trap. However, passing the same test will count for something. Even if it's just with me.

STEP 3: Resign our fates. If step 1 and step 2 don't work, I'll look for the positive in public school. There are good teachers. There are amazing staff. And it's a rather small school. And I know the counselors. Okay, I know most of the adults at the school. And I'll pray really hard that she gets  good teachers and gets over her severe (I mean SEVERE) test anxiety.

Oh Man, Oh Man, Oh Man!

I'm kind of geeking out! just a little. I looked at my blog stats today and there was a referring site that really took my blog off! I was rather shocked. Do you know what it was????

 I'm kind of shaking from the experience. Seriously!

 I'm mentioned in an e-article for Deseret News!

I guess I should pretend to be all cool...

"So, you see: I am always this cool, and someone just noticed. But it doesn't affect me. I'm always on top of my game. Not some struggling-to-put-the-pieces-together, regular woman who's a bit too outspoken and a bit too broken at times."

How's that?

Did you buy it?

Yeah, me neither.

{on a side note, I guess I should stop ranting so much on my blog...}

Wednesday, January 30, 2013

F. A. I. R.

"it's not fair, it's not fair, it's not fair. It's not F. A. I. R. Fair." that's the song of the day. But on the flip side, My daughter's starting to see true colors. That makes it a little more worth it, even if it stinks. And I get to learn patience instead of action.



Perhaps I should explain. When the judge ordered my daughter  back in public school, she cried, I cried. We both think it's wrong. Every morning, dropping her off, I get this sickening "this is not the right choice," feeling. And it comes after many "I hate this, why can't I just be home schooled again" comments from my chica. And many other "if we were home schooling, we'd have time for this" moments throughout the day.

But today is pretty hard. Our home school co-op started today. And there's a hair-styling class and a gymnastics and tumbling class. But they're during the day. And she's in school.

And she is devastated.

But I can't do anything about it.

And as a mom, that's just not F.A.I.R. fair.

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Done

So the verdict came back for homeschooling. And she's still in public school. And we both hate it. Ive tried putting on a happy face for her. I've tried liking school and just ignoring all of its sickness. But I can't today. She knows this isn't right. I know it isn't right. There's so many better options.
It's harder after weekends and breaks. And it's harder when she's sick or been up all night. And when she gets so mad at the system for telling her what to do (and I shout for joy because my little follower is learning that it's okay to think for herself). And when everything at home seems so much more productive. And when I see all the fluff work come home from school. And when her reading TANKS after standardized testing. Again.

I wish I knew what to do.

Sunday, January 27, 2013

Released

I was released from Young Women Personal Progress today. And I know I should be sad, and I will miss the girls, but I am really grateful. I've felt like I should ask to be released for a while now. I need to cut some things down until I learn to handle stress better. I need to focus on me and my family more (and yet I blog more than ever now! But really, blogging is helping me fulfill my goals to spend time with my family and keep a good running tally on my goals. And, I don't know, it keeps track of my thoughts better so I can put them down and deal with life).

But I kept rationalizing that if it were time for me to be released, I'd be released. So I waited. And honestly, it didn't take too long for me to get released, either. But with the new layout of Young Women lessons, I really don't think the leaders needed a personal progress adviser. It felt like I was the scapegoat. And I really struggled finding out I'm the scapegoat at church, too! The leaders should know the program. The youth should just do it. I shouldn't be there to tell the leaders which lessons go with which personal progress, or tell the youth that they should work on faith number 1 this week, knowing full well none of them will do it. Or create this wonderful activity that 4 girls show up to and all they have to do is read or journal, and yet none of them sign off on the experience. I don't mean to sound bitter, I'm not. But I do think that there is a better way (and there's no guidance for a personal progress adviser in the guidebooks to the church, so I feel semi-justified in saying that).

At any rate, I get to go back to Relief Society, get to re-know the ladies in my ward (which is good, because my one real friend in the ward is moving at the end of the month and I could use a friend), and enjoy the new adventures of not feeling stressed or obligated.

And luckily, they just called a new Relief Society presidency today. And I'm not in it! ;c)

Saturday, January 26, 2013

Taking Too Long

It's been one of those days where everything is taking too long. And it doesn't help that I've had a migraine all day. I wish there was some magic cure and I'd stop getting so sick all the time. It's like I have 5 good days, then 3 that wipe me out, then 5 good and the cycle continues. I guess I should be glad that there are more good than bad but I'm so ready to be done with this! I've been debating about sending off a hair sample to a lab that will test for every food allergy and intolerance, as well as a few genetic diseases. But I'm afraid of the results. And I know that KNOWING will be better than not knowing... But it's still scary.

But everything else took too long today, too. I have been working on making the yarn wreath, and it's not working out so well. When they say add a ton of yarn they meant it! And it's not so easy to add a ton more after the fact. And I've been trying to clean out the fonts on my computer so that maybe thing will run properly until my sweet friend who likes working on computers comes to visit and helps me get it as good as almost new (it IS seven years old...). And it's a pain to manually go in and delete fonts one at a time, especially when you have to decide which ones to delete and the ones that you really want to delete, you're somehow "not authorized" to delete them.

So here I am, at 11 o'clock, exhausted, and wishing today went better.



Friday, January 25, 2013

Heavenly Father Answers Prayers FHE

Purpose: to develop a sincere desire to pray and to know that we will always receive an answer because Heavenly Father loves us.

Possible Songs: “Sweet Hour of Prayer,” Hymns 142; “How Great Thou Art,” Hymn 86; “Joseph Smith’s First Prayer,” Hymn 26; “Be Thou Humble,” Hymn 130; “I Pray In Faith,” Children’s Songbook page 14; “A Child’s Prayer”, Children’s Songbook page 12.

Possible Materials: Wordart for the quote by Elder Peterson; Picture of David O. McKay; a picture of a girl pioneer (I like this one or this one, even though it’s a handcart); A picture of Hannah (I had to make my own!); A picture of Oliver Cowdery and Joseph translating. Picture of Joseph Smith in Carthage (I love this one but I think it’s copyrighted). Index cards of 7 ways Heavenly Father answers our prayers.


Preparation: Begin with prayer. Consider if your family members feel comfortable going to Heavenly Father in prayer. Reflect on your own experiences of receiving answers to prayer. Read the suggested scriptures and any articles listed in Resources.
Children: Listen to the story “Shoes,” From the June 1997 Friend and the story of David O. McKay from the August 2004 Friend. Watch the first two minutes of the video “Samuel,” and the story of Alma and Amulek.  

Lesson:

Introduction: Watch the video “O Remember, Remember,” then share this quote by H. Burke Peterson:
“I want you to know that I know that whenever one of Heavenly Father’s children kneels and talks to him, he listens. I know this as well as I know anything in this world—that Heavenly Father listens to every prayer from his children. I know our prayers ascend to heaven. No matter what we may have done wrong, he listens to us.
“I also believe he answers us. I don’t believe he ignores his children when they talk to him.” (“Prayer—Try Again,” Ensign, June 1981, p. 73.)

Discussion: Ask if the members of your family believe Heavenly Father answers Prayers. Does he listen to everyone’s prayers, even when someone has made mistakes? Does he always answer the way we would like him to? Ask, “What are some ways Heavenly Father answers our prayers?” Read Resource story one, then discuss each of these topics in turn…
1.         He grants our prayer (Read Church History story on shoes).
2.       He gives us something better (Read Resource story 2).
3.       He makes us wait, and then our prayers are granted (tell the story of Hannah)
4.       He grant’s comfort and peace through the Holy Ghost (Read Church History story David’s Prayer).
5.       He sends people to help (Share the story of Alma and Amulek).
6.       We learn his will through scriptures or the words of the prophet (Tell the story of Joseph in Carthage).
7.       A thought enters our mind, or we just “know.” (Tell the story of Oliver Cowdery)

From the Resource Book: Read story one (found below) and ask, “Did the father of this story listen to everyone? Did he always answer the way his children would like him to? What were some of the answers he gave (Yes, no, wait, and comfort)? Why do you think the children went to their father? How is this story like prayer?
            Activity: Role play. Give each child a role in the story and have them act out the parts.

From Church History: Read, “Shoes,” from the June 1997 Friend (here is a summarized version for younger children). Discuss how sometimes our prayers take time to answer.

From the Resource Book: Read story two (also found below) and ask, “At first, did it seem like the family’s prayers were being answered? Sometimes we do not recognize the answers to our prayers because we need to gain more knowledge to help the answers become clear.

From the Old Testament: Read Samuel 1:1- 2:11. Tell the story of Hannah. Talk about how Hannah cried unto the Lord, how he blessed her, and how she thanked Him and kept her promise. Does it sound like Hannah simply prayed and got what she wanted? Or is it more likely that this had been a continual prayer for her, and it took some time?
            Activity: I made a picture of Hannah where her arms are closed in prayer and open to show a baby.

From Church History: Read “David’s Prayer,” From the August 2004 Friend.  Discuss how sometimes answers to prayer are just a feeling of comfort.

From the Book of Mormon: Read Alma 8:14-27. Do you think Alma prayed that he’d find someone to help him? How was Amulek and answer to Alma’s sorrows?

From Church History: Read Doctrine and Covenants 121. Explain that although God didn’t take away the problem, peace, understanding, and answers came from relating to the scriptures.

From Church History: Read Doctrine and Covenants 8:1-3. Tell the back-story of how Oliver Cowdery desired to translate.

Further discussion: What difference does it make to know that Heavenly Father will really listen to your prayers? Do we talk to strangers differently than our friends? It is the same with prayer. Share how much peace it brings knowing that each member of the family can call upon God when they need help, even when they think they’re alone.

Challenge: Encourage each family member to make their prayers more meaningful this week with the knowledge that Heavenly Father loves them and will answer each prayer.

Resources:   Family Home Evening Resource Book, Lesson 7; Gospel Principles Chapter 8 (End); Come, Follow Me Sunday School lesson on seeing the Lord’s hand; “O Remember, Remember,” By Elder Henry B. Eyering; “Shoes,” Friend , June 1997; David’s Prayer,” Friend, August 2004. See also: “But If Not…” by Elder Dennis E Simmons of the Seventy, and, “Hannah,” from a Bible Study by Vickie Kraft on Bible.org (it made me cry).


Wednesday, January 23, 2013

Damage



This quote intrigues me. I don't know how I feel about it. I guess it hits a little too close to home? Sometimes I'd just like to curl myself into that little ball. Sometimes it's too hard to be big and know you control nothing (but yourself) and much easier to be little and feel like you control something.

And then again, my favorite character in the Avengers is the old guy who stands up and says no to Loki. I watch the whole movie for that part. I love that he stands up. I love that he tells Loki that agency matters. And I love that Captain America (my second favorite character. What can I say? I'm strongly justice oriented) saves his life.

But really...I'd rather live my life, secluded somewhere off the grid, growing my food and charging my cell phone with solar energy (okay, so not THAT off the grid. The internet's kind of my friend, and I love being able to text) than to be big and bold and loud and stand up and make my voice heard.

So why do I feel like I'm meant for the latter?

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Valentine Inspirations

You all can be so proud of me! I've got Valentine's Day Decorations up! We're one for one, so far! I'd like to get more up, but for now, it's a start.

I found these links helpful, so I thought I'd do the bloggerly thing and pass them along. Only I'd actually give credit! (seriously! when you follow Pinterest pins back, it's really annoying how few actually link to the original source!



I'm diggin' the stylization on the quote. And I love the vintage-y wedding picture from this post and landeeseelandeedo.com. {The Pinterest link is junk. Just in case you were curious. You wont find this picture there.}   

The string wreath created from a balloon is in another language, and the picture's too big to show, but the link is here. I found the pictures helpful enough. UPDATE! The real tutorial is here by michelemademe.com. It was my favorite wreath. I just made it, and its harder than it looks. Hint: Use TONS of heavy-weight crochet thread. 

This wreath made it to the top 3, but we didn't end up picking it. It was second place for both the princess and me (our first choices were different), so since it wasn't either of our first favorites, we decided against it. But I'm sharing it in case someone else loves it. it can be found here, and it's by socraftalicious.blogspot.com.

This was not my favorite wreath, but since the whole point of enjoying the holidays was to enjoy time with my girl, and this was HER favorite, our version is currently on our front door. We didn't follow the tutorial on catchmyparty.com at all, though.

We liked the heart garland on Better Homes and Gardens, but probably wont make it. 
We also liked the window hearts from scrapbookgirl.typepad.com. I LOVE blue in Valentine's Day decor! It definitely make the pink and red less drab. 

However, this heart garland was a must for my seven-year-old. They can be found at howaboutorange.blogspot.com. {sometimes it's a good thing that pins get pinned and pinned on multiple boards, so that you can get an original source! Man is it a pain to actually want to give credit where it is due!}

This fabric garland is pretty cute, too. It's also from howaboutorange.blogspot.com.

The kid vetoed this garland. Probably because the curlie-heart garland sounded like more fun. It comes via supermommoments.com.

I probably wont get this felt garland made, although it's cute. You can buy it at Aidie's Hideaway Etsy shop.

and although the quote's kind of cliche, I like this printable from eighteen25.blogspot.com. If I wasn't out of ink, it'd already be displayed in my house... although not in such a cute frame (some day).


Otherwise, I'll do something like this from bedifferentactnormal.com.


or this. But with a different font. It's a cool garland, though. You can find it at sarahdawndesigns.blogspot.com.


Tissue poms are on the to-do list. We'll see if we get that far. They can be found at beautyandthebratwurst.com.

I really liked the idea of homemade mailboxes. The metal boxes get to be a pain, and these will be cute. You can find them at parenting.com. A better link (one from the actual owner) is found here by simplymodernmom.com.  

I might get up the courage to make these bottles. I think washi tape is kind of cheating, though... You  can find the tutorial at vixenmade.com.

I'm thinking of turning this idea from bedifferentactnormal.com into a tea towel. 

I love this idea for cupcakes! The owls are adorable. They're made by Etsy seller Parker's Flour Patch.

My girl really wants to make this wreath. I am still undecided. It's too identifiable as toilet paper rolls... But it comes from thethriftress.com. I'm hoping to use this idea instead...

or maybe this one. It's found at frugalfrontier.com


Doesn't this look fun? I know there's a way to make them, but you can also Buy 50 pre-made from Amazon. 

I picked these for the inspiration for my toe nails. The original poster is fitcraftystylishandhappy.blogspot.com.

And lastly... I just really like this picture by abiteast.typepad.com.

Monday, January 21, 2013

Getting the Boot

After being sick of getting snow in my shoes all week, I finally broke down and went in search of a cute pair of fashion boots. The problem is...  I have no idea on what's appropriate in boot style. I'm clueless. There's a reason I've always walked down the shoe aisles and sighed longingly. I've always been too chicken to take the fashion risk that is boots. I've always hid my fear in calling them "hooker boots."

But I really could use something besides open-toed heals and ballet flats. And I've had two Kohls gift cards burning a hole in my pocket. So, since I had some free time in town today, I went boot shopping. And I couldn't make up my mind, and wasn't sure if either was "acceptable," so I came home with TWO pairs of boots.

So.... Can someone please help educate me? What are the do's and don'ts of boots?

First of all, I don't own skinny jeans. I've got short chicken legs. And I'm a mom. I just don't feel like skinny jeans are the answer. In the picture, I've got straight-leg, otherwise, I've got bootcut. So although the style is to wear them on the outside, right now, I don't know how well that works. I think feasible on the brown pair,  but tacky on the black pair. Thoughts?

Boot education.Boot education.

(For the record  I've vacuumed up the tinsel on the ground more than once... stubborn tinsel.)

As far as wearing the pants on the outside, I think the brown pair looks too cowboy boot-ish. But I've always been too chicken to wear heals and jeans. Even though I've longed of being bold enough. But we're making progress... I bought healed boots.

Boot education.
Boot education.
Do black boots go with brown?

Boot education.
Boot education.

Do brown boots go with black?

Boot education.
Boot education.

And is there a certain length of dress that is a must for a boot (pretend I'm wearing nylons... or at least didn't have distractingly white legs)?
Boot education.
Boot education.
Boot education.
Boot education.
   

Lastly, if I were only to keep one pair, which is the  better pair to keep, noting some of the basics of my wardrobe? 

Friday, January 18, 2013

I Can Pray to Heavenly Father FHE


Purpose: To teach that prayer is one of the greatest blessings we have and that through prayer we can talk with our Heavenly Father and seek His guidance often.

Possible scriptures:Psalm 55:17; Matthew 6:9–13; 1 Thessalonians 5:17; James 1:5; 2 Nephi 32:8–9; Alma 34:17-27; Alma 37:37; 3 Nephi 18:19–21; Moroni 10:3–5;


Possible Songs: I Pray in Faith - Children's Songbook #14; A Prayer - Children's Songbook #22b; A Prayer Song - Children's Songbook #22a;; Children All Over the World - Children's Songbook #16; Did You Think to Pray? - Hymns #140; Heavenly Father, Now I Pray - Children's Songbook #19; I Love to Pray - Children's Songbook #25b; Love Is Spoken Here - Children's Songbook #190; We Bow Our Heads - Children's Songbook #25a; Sweet Hour of Prayer - Hymns #142


Possible Materials: A container that says “I am Thankful For” and a container that says “Please Bless That...” along with papers that say “Heavenly Father,” and “In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.” A picture of Enos, a picture of Daniel in the Lion’s Den, praying figurine (or this one), Parts of a prayer craft or Ponder Pray Listen craft.


Preparation: Begin with prayer. Take a self-evaluation. Have your prayers been meaningful lately? Have you paused at the end of your prayers? Is there something you could work on? Also consider the difference between knowing OF God and knowing God. Read the suggested scriptures, the stories of Enos and Daniel in the Lion’s Den, and any articles listed in Resources.

Children: Gather up things that people can be thankful for (food, pillow, toy, shirt, etc.), then watch the video of Enos and Daniel in the Lion’s Den.

Lesson:

Introduction: Pull out a bag that says “I am thankful for...” and ask the family what are some things they’re thankful for. Pull out pictures of some ideas (i.e. clothes, house, family, food, scriptures, etc.) When the family is done naming things, talk about prayer. Ask what are the parts of a prayer? When they talk about asking for blessings, pull out a second bag, labeled, “Please Bless That...” and pull out pictures of things we often need (health, we will listen, safety, our friends, etc.) Place the papers with “Heavenly Father,” and “In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen,” on either side of the bags. Discuss that there are important steps to saying a good prayer. For older children, modify to include the bags, and the steps, but make them write their own responses to include in the bags.

Discussion: Ask the question “what should we pray for?” Here are some answers provided by the Gospel Principles manual:
1.           Strength to resist the temptations of Satan and his followers ( 3 Nephi 18:15; D&C 10:5).
2.          Confess our sins to God and ask Him to forgive us (see Alma 38:14).
3.          Guidance and help in our daily lives.
4.          Families and friends, neighbors, crops and animals, daily work, and other activities.
5.          Protection from our enemies. (See Alma 34:17–27.)
6.          Express love to our Heavenly Father and to feel closer to Him.
7.          Thank Him for our welfare, comfort and all things He gives us (1 Thessalonians 5:18).
8.          Ask our Heavenly Father for strength to live the gospel.
9.          Help in keeping on the strait and narrow path that leads to eternal life.
10.      So we may be righteous in our thoughts, words, and actions.

You should also discuss the language of prayer, using respectful words such as Thee, Thou, Thy, and Thine in place of you and your. For older kids, discuss how we should take time before we pray to think about what we really want in a prayer, who the prayer will include (i.e. for a congregation or a whole family) and any special things the members of the prayer may be seeking. Then discuss taking time after a prayer to listen and reflect.

From the Friend: Discuss how we get ready for prayer.  For younger children, discuss reverence by sitting or kneeling quietly, folding their arms, closing their eyes, and bowing their head.
Activity: Use the figurine from “When I Begin To Pray,” The Friend Oct 1982 or “Fasting and Prayer,” September 2000.

From the Book of Mormon: Discuss or read the story of Enos.  Talk about being able to pray when you need to; It doesn't have to be in the morning or at night. For older audiences, focus on what and WHO Enos prayed for. Help them realize that you should pray for your enemies as well your friends.

From the Old Testament: Read Daniel 6:4-27. Discuss how Daniel never quit praying, even when it was hard. Ask how we can know that Heavenly Father listened to Daniel’s prayers.

Further discussion: Discuss times that we pray, which includes when we wake up; when we go to bed; meals; as a family; in church; when we need strength; when we are scared, or lonely, etc; when we need answers; when we don’t feel like praying; and “continually.” Discuss the importance of listening after we pray. I’ve heard of many analogies to use, like paying for a theme park ride and not getting on it.

Challenge: Challenge each member of your family to pay closer attention to his or her prayers – before, during, and after.

Resources:   Sunbeams Manual Lesson 4; Nursery Manual lesson 3; Gospel Principles Chapter 8;  Come, Follow Me;;




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Thursday, January 17, 2013

How To Set Goals: Starting Off the New Year FHE

Purpose: teach the importance of setting and reaching goals.

Possible scriptures:Matt 5:16; Matt 5:48; Galatians 6:10; James 2:17-22; Jacob 2:18-19; 3 Nephi 13:24; 3 Nephi 13:33 (see also Matt 6:33); 3 Nephi 27: 27; Doctrine & Covenants 67:13

Possible Songs: "The Iron Rod," Hymns 274; "As Zion's Youth in Latter-days," Hymns 256; "I Hope They Call Me on a Mission," Children's Songbook 169; "The Things I Do," Children's Songbook 170; "I Love to See the Temple," Children's Songbook 95; "I'm Trying to be Like Jesus," Children's Songbook 78.

Possible Materials: Heber J Grant 3 stories (1, 2, 3); Tree of Life story aides (or this one. I made my own); Graham Cracker Story aides; Neil Armstrong Picture; Wordart for last line of Kimball quote.




Preparation: Begin with prayer. Consider some possible goals for yourself. Think of your own struggles with keeping goals. Is there ways you can improve, so that you can help others? Read the suggested scriptures and any articles listed in Resources.
Children: Listen to the audio for the Heber J Grant stories and watch the video for the Tree of Life. Gather up random game pieces.

Lesson:

Introduction: Distribute random game pieces from a variety of games (Lara,from whom I borrowed this idea, has a picture you can use if you don't have any - Page 3). Give random pieces to everyone, and tell them to go ahead and start to play. Don't give them any instructions; the idea is to get the blank stares. When they ask how they're supposed to play a game they don't know, talk about how it's the same with goals. It's hard to make it where we want to be if we don't know what goals we have in mind or what the point is. Goals are like instructions; they tell us where we want to be and how to win the game.

Discussion: Read the following quote from President Spencer W Kimball. Talk about some worthy life goals to set and what steps need to be taken to get there.
... My dear young friends, the positive things you will want to accomplish need only be decided upon once—like going on a mission and living worthily in order to get married in the temple—and then all other decisions related to these goals can easily be made. Otherwise, each consideration is risky, and each equivocation may result in error. There are some things Latter-day Saints do, and other things we just don’t do. The sooner you decide to do what is right, the better it will be for you!  ---Spencer W Kimball, "President Kimball Speaks Out On Planning Your Life," June 1982

From Church History: Picture of Heber J Grant (The link to download the picture can be found on this page). There are 2 different ways to talk about Heber J. Grant. The first is to readthis story, this story, and this story, from the Friend Magazine, and ask, “What goal did Heber make? What did he do to reach his goal? What happened because he made the goal?” after each story. The second option is to print out the church's discussion on Heber J. Grant found here.

From American History: Read the following story and ask, “What would have happened if Neil never pursued his goal of being a pilot? What about if he’d quit after he flew in the Navy? What if, when life got hard, he said he was done?”
When Neil was two years old, his dad took him to an air race. Neil decided that when he grew up, he wanted to be a pilot. When he got older, he took flying lessons at the county airport. He earned his flight license at 15, before his driver’s license.  He started college at 17 and began studying Aeronautical Engineering. When Neil turned 18, he was called up to serve in the Navy. There, he studied Naval Aviation. Right after he turned 20, he was a qualified Naval Aviator. Neil had lots of jobs in the Navy and continued to improve his skill. When he finished his military service, Neil became a test pilot. Soon, Neil was selected to participate in the space program that was trying to get a man on the moon. It took lots of work, and many different tries, but on July 21st, 1969, Neil Armstrong was the first man on the moon. 

From the Scriptures: Read or summarize Lehi's Dream as found in 1 Nephi 8. Discuss how the Tree of Life represents Eternal life, our ultimate goal. The Iron rod represents what we have to do to reach this goal. {It was hard for me to read the right verses to get to the meat of the story, and I didn’t want to mark in my scriptures just to make the story easier, so I wrote it out. I've summarized the scripture in the additional resource section.}
            Activity: Read the story; lay the story pieces out as each part of the story is mentioned.

From The Friend:  
Activity: Read “Graham Crackers, Grapes, and Goals.” This story talks about how each step is important for us to reach our goal. Use illustrations (I made mine) to help younger children pay attention to the story. I drew graham crackers and grapes and toys, etc. for my story.

From a Conference Talk: Read Keeping Life's Demands in Balance. Discuss the steps:(1) Think out your life and your priorities. What is most important? (2) Set short-term goals that you can reach quickly. (3) Balance needs and wants. (4) Stay close to family and study the scriptures (5) Study the scriptures (6) Plan time for sufficient rest, exercise and relaxation. (7) Family Home Evening (8) Pray often as individuals and as a family.

Further discussion: Talk about how to set SMART Goals. S = Specific (or Significant). M = Measurable (or Meaningful). A = Attainable (or Action-Oriented).R = Relevant (or Rewarding). T = Time-bound (or Trackable).   Also discuss the importance of prayer in setting goals. By taking the time to prepare, pray, and ponder about our goals, we are able to focus on what will be most beneficial for our family.

Challenge: Remind your family about how we need to keep goals in our mind AND we need to work to achieve them. We need to cling tightly to the rod and to the things we know will bring us to our goals. Now help each person think of a challenging, but attainable goal and have them write it down and keep it in a place they’ll see it.

Resources:   I got inspiration for this lesson from this site and from this site. Elder Ballard, Keeping Life's Demands in Balance;Graham Crackers, Grapes, and Goals”, The Friend, Jan. 2005.


ALSO: there's a cute printable here that you could use as a reminder, if you're interested in Disney Movie  reminders. Here's the pic I had in mind.